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This group is for those who have read or are reading the book "Feeling Good" or "Feeling Great" or any of the other books by Dr. David Burns
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  2. I haven't got time to write a proper comment now but I love the way the TEAM approach overcomes resistance. I haven't yet read the book "Feeling Great" but I've listened to dozens and dozens of Dr. Burns' podcasts. Brilliant work!
  3. Here is a good work sheet for those struggle with those difficult people…you know the one…or two …or Taken from https://feelinggood.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Blame-CBA-completed-version.pdf Blame cba.pdf
  4. I enjoyed this excerpt from Dr. Burn’s book “When Panic Attacks” I would like to hear your thoughts on this… The Hidden Emotion Technique sounds deceptively simple, but it’s not nearly as easy as it sounds. That’s because you probably won’t be aware of the problem that’s bugging you when you feel anxious. At first, nearly all the anxious people I’ve treated have insisted that everything was just fine, except for the darn anxiety. It usually takes some time and good detective work before the problem surfaces. Why do anxiety-prone individuals deny or “forget” their problems? I believe it’s because most people who suffer from anxiety are overly nice. I’m convinced that niceness is the cause of nearly all anxiety. In fact, if you’re struggling with anxiety, I’ll bet you a dollar to a dime that you’re a very nice person. Your “niceness” results from these kinds of Self-Defeating Beliefs: • Pleasing Others. You feel as if you have to please everyone else, even at the expense of your own needs and feelings. • Anger Phobia. You feel that you’re not allowed to be angry, or you may think that anger is dangerous and must be avoided at all costs. When you’re irritated or annoyed with someone, you act nice, push your feelings under the surface, and tell yourself that you shouldn’t feel the way you do. • Conflict Phobia. You avoid conflict because you feel that you have to get along with everyone all the time. • Emotional Perfectionism. You think you should always feel happy, cheerful, and optimistic about your life, your work, and other people. • Emotophobia. This is the flip side of Emotional Perfectionism. Emotophobia is a term I coined that means “the fear of negative emotions.” You believe you should always be in control of the way you feel and never allow yourself to feel anxious, vulnerable, lonely, jealous, annoyed, or inadequate. These Self-Defeating Beliefs are all slightly different ways of saying the same thing: namely, that you tend to be overly nice and you’re not always in touch with how you really feel. When you get upset, you automatically push the problem out of your mind. Pretty soon you’re so consumed by anxiety that you forget all about the problem that was bothering you in the first place. Researchers don’t know why anxious individuals have this tendency to ignore problems. It’s not simply a matter of being psychologically naive. I’m pretty psychologically savvy, yet I sometimes overlook obvious conflicts or problems that are bugging me. Although anxiety-prone people are often unassertive, this usually isn’t the issue, and assertiveness training doesn’t correct the problem. The problem is that they don’t even know how they feel. 1.The Detective Work. This is the hardest part. You have to put on your thinking cap and try to figure out who or what is really bothering you. Bringing the problem to conscious awareness can be extremely difficult. You may tell yourself that you don’t have any problems except for the anxiety itself. But sooner or later the problem usually does surface. The problem will usually turn out to be something that’s bugging you in the here and now, not something that’s buried in the past. In addition, it nearly always will be something that’s pretty obvious, such as hating your job, being upset with a friend, or wanting to do something different with your life. It generally won’t be a deep, complicated psychological problem, like an Oedipal complex. 2. The Solution. Once you’ve identified the problem that’s bugging you, you’ll have to express your feelings and do something about it. When you solve the problem, your anxiety will frequently diminish or disappear.
  5. Audra ‘Welcome… so what do you find interesting about the approach of TEAM therapy. ‘I was thinking I might be the only one who has read any of his books Lance
  6. What I like about this book is that it is basically a self-help how to on cognitive behavioural therapy. But to fully appreciate the information and its feedback you need to do the exercises for it to be worth anything. Just reading the book wont do much in the long term. You need to practice changing the way you think. For anyone who suffers depression or PTSD, this is one of the best self-help books out there and i have seen a lot of good feedbacks results to a number of depressed people who have reviewed this book, including myself.
  7. I put this together a few years ago Biblical Cognitive Distortions.pdf
  8. I first became acquainted with this book when I read the Awake 1987 Oct 22 article on depression..one of my go to articles to this day when helping ones in the congregation. I had major health issues, and along with it came depression.. I read the Awake article, and it piqued my interest in finding out more information. So I picked up this book and I loved the practical wisdom and approach to coping with the way I was was thinking about my health challenges. I was then assigned to a large inner city congregation that was 90 percent sisters and just 2 elders.(and learned a lot very quickly). in the late 80's abuse issues were coming to the fore and the practical wisdom of this book helped me to help others dealing with the cognitive distortions that resulted from abuse and other issues plaguing everyone.. So this reading group is for those who are reading one of Dr Burns Books and what you have found that has worked or that you are working on.. Who knows I might be the only one in this group.... Awake! does not endorse or promote any form of treatment but provides current information to be helpful. See “Attacking Major Depression—Professional Treatments” in our October 22, 1981, issue. To overcome the simple blues, which are quite different from major depression, see “How Can I Get Rid of the Blues?” in our October 8, 1982, issue. The confidant of a depressed person must not only avoid judgmental statements that would add to that one’s feelings of guilt and worthlessness but also not be unrealistically optimistic. Our next issue will have information on how others can help depressed ones. [Box on page 13] Distorted Thinking Patterns All-or-nothing thinking: You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfection, you see yourself as a total failure. Overgeneralization: You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. For instance, after an argument with a friend, you may conclude: ‘I’m losing all my friends. Nothing turns out right for me.’ Disqualifying the positive: You reject positive experiences by insisting that they “don’t count” or, “I’m not worthy of such.” By dwelling on a single negative detail, your whole view darkens. Jumping to conclusions: You arbitrarily conclude that someone doesn’t like you, and you don’t bother to check this out. Or you are absolutely convinced that things will always turn out badly. Magnification or minimization: You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your own mistake or someone else’s achievement) or play down things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). You make nightmarish disasters out of commonplace negative events. Personalization: You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event that, in fact, you were not primarily responsible for. Based on Feeling Good—The New Mood Therapy, by David D. Burns, M.D.
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