The Princess

[kejedo]

                                 The Princess
                   She did not know he had a girlfriend while they were engaged. There was a woman who called and harassed her, saying she was THE girlfriend and had been for years.  He told her it was a crazy person who was obsessed with him and had created long term problems, time and again. It seemed plausible as the self described girlfriend was older and objectively less attractive and arguably less accomplished than the  fiancee.
                   The girlfriend's schemes were relentless. Endless hang up calls to the woman and anonymous  vicious lies about  the future princess to her family members, friends - social, work, and volunteer groups. Some believed the phone calls and turned on the engaged young lady. The potential princess had an unsettling feeling in her stomach and considered cancelling the nuptials. His lies were convincing and he guilted her into feeling that to back out would be a selfish source of humiliation.  She did not want to appear selfish and certainly wanted no part in causing embarrassment to anyone.
                    On the eve of their Wedding, the future husband had to be away, all night. Because the husband started an  argument with his new wife on their Wedding Day, he spent that night away from her, as well.  Now, the Princess worked at trying to make the marriage work.  She never did feel like a bride.  Truth be told, the husband was more than an emotional disappointment. Despite the perseverance and tight grip of the girlfriend, the husband was also lacking in other areas- rough, abrupt, perfunctory, drunk, and unromantic. 
                   Still, the dutiful princess gave birth to child after child within this, her one and only marriage. The husband was not found home on the nights that his wife was in-patient for Labor and Delivery. Time and again.
                   The princess often thought that she would rather be dead than in this marriage.  But, then, she thought about the children. The children. It seems that they were the purpose of this disjointed union.  She respected the institution of marriage and wanted to hold up her part of the vow. 
                   The one sided marriage stumbled on, year after year, decade after decade. The Princess brought up her children to respect their Father and their surname.  The girlfriend's tenacity was inventive and no matter how many times the husband, wife, and children moved, she would hound the family down and infiltrate again. The husband wanted to keep his pseudo marriage publicly in tact, but could not turn down the physical availability of the girlfriend as she inveigled her way in, time and again. It was  his prerogative to take advantage of opportunities that fell in his path. His wife should believe his lies,  and on the basis of that should, herself, be readily available.     
                 Early on, the husband had called  this extra marital situation off, time and again, but then the girlfriend would show up with her physical offerings, and well, you can't blame a guy, can you? And so, he took it up and eventually accepted it as his lifetime pattern. Never thought much about it. The girlfriend had many many physical intimacies with men who provided her with financial gifts, and the  husband of the princess dare not say anything because HE was the wrong doer.  He had married someone else and she, the girlfriend, knew him first.  In the girlfriend's eyes, the wife had no right to be married to him. The wife was trying to uphold her vow. She had caught her husband on the phone many times with a female voice on the other end, but he lied it off every single time and angrily CLICKED the phone off. Eventually he installed surveillance cameras everywhere so that his personal actions would be private, not observed or interrupted..  
                  One denotation of deadlock is something that will only be released with the death of someone. Time and again. 
 

[bushbard]

The machinations of The Devil and many and cruel Pauline.  He does not care about people's feelings, just uses and abuses them.

 

Thankfully we have Jehovah's word that can protect us from the scenario above and, if we find out too late, he still can show us a way out.  Sadly the scars will be there but I have noticed that in time they do fade.

 

May we always never lean on our heart to guide us, as it can be treacherous, but constantly fill our hearts and minds with Jehovah's guidance and help from mature and faithful brothers and sisters.