Looking for success stories......

[aPeacefulButterfly]

I have met a wonderful brother on line at one of the JW websites. We have talked, emailed, and texted for many, many, many hours. I have talked and corresponded with his PO, his Mom and Dad, his sister and his daughter. We have asked 20 questions over and over and over and over with each of us haveing to answer our own questions as well as eachothers. I KNOW THIS MAN!!! We are the same person...he is just a man and I'm a woman. We are just alike...we enjoy the same things, we like the same foods, we have the same spiritual goals...everything. We have prayed to Jehovah about our relationship and everything points to us being together. We read the daily text and pray together everynight and it is so wonderful to have a man who enjoys talking about the Truth and taking the lead in spiritual things. That's all I ever wanted.

So.......my point here is....I'd like to hear of expreiences from others who have met their spouse on line and have had a positive experience fropm it. Also if anyone has had a negative experience, please share that as well. I'm looking forward to hearing from everyone.

Love, you sis,

LaRhonda

[Brother_Bliss]

So.......my point here is....I'd like to hear of expreiences from others who have met their spouse on line and have had a positive experience fropm it. Also if anyone has had a negative experience, please share that as well. I'm looking forward to hearing from everyone.

Hello LaRhonda. I have gathered some experiences from some friends on a couple other forums and will be posting them later today. Some are positive, some are negative, and some are in between.

Your brother,

- Bob

[aPeacefulButterfly]

Thanks Bob. I'm looking forward to reading them. You're a special friend and thanks for caring.

Lm

[Brother_Bliss]

.I'd like to hear of expreiences from others who have met their spouse on line and have had a positive experience from it.

Hello LaRhonda. What follows is one positive experience from a person who is not a member here at JWTalk. She is a member of another witness forum who I inquired directly for an experience/testimony from her:

Hi,

My husband and I became friends through mutual friends online. He expressed interest and after meeting in person we began to date. Our relationship continued long distance for about 4 or 5 months before he moved to where I lived. We spoke to the overseers of each others halls and were very honest with each other. We courted for another 6 months "in person" before we got engaged. We have been happily married for 4.5 years. Just like in any marriage we face challenges but both of us are happy with our decision.

The thing about online is that its fine for a start but I really recommend ample time to be around each other before getting engaged. That is just my take though. Oh and they should definitely contact their respective overseers.

Hope this helps!

[Brother_Bliss]

I'd like to hear of expreiences from others who have met their spouse on line and have had a positive experience from it

And here is another experience from another person I know who met their spouse online....

Hi,

My husband and I met online. Nine years and 2 kids later, I'd say it turned out pretty well for us.

Oh yeah, when we met, I lived in NC and my husband lived in ID. Then he moved back to his home state of CA before we got married. So we had a east coast/west coast relationship too.

Take care

[Brother_Bliss]

Also if anyone has had a negative experience, please share that as well. I'm looking forward to hearing from everyone.

And now this is a not so happy testimony. This person wishes to remain anonymous due to the sensitive nature of the subject...

Yes, I met my spouse on the internet, yet neither of us had an desire to court each other until meeting in person. We did most of our dating over the internet though.

I spoke with several in the family. I had my elders speak with the other congregation elders, and everyone loved this person. Now I am not saying that this person is a bad person, but my spouse was definitely hiding things that surfaced years later and there are times when I feel this was the worst decision of my life. I think about how I could have remained single, pursued privileges of service and strengthened my relationship with Jehovah.

Now I am extremely leery of online dating, because no matter what all these well intentioned people think of the other person, they could never possibly know what secret habits or feelings they might be harboring that will rear it's ugly head at a later time. It's like that analogy of the person that shot themselves in the head and lived. Would it make a lick of sense to say 'well he shot himself in the head and wow! look where he is now, so maybe if I shoot myself in the head things will work out for me just as well'.

[gloreeoreo]

the negative experience was sad, and while I don't encourage online courtships, I know of brothers who hid things and it had nothing to do with the internet. they just plain hid them, till they couldn't hide them anymore. what i'm trying to say is, you never really know someone completely until you are married. it's a gamble, no matter how you meet!

[Micah]

You can say the same thing for those that aren't dating thru the internet. For example of a brother from Akron met a sister from Youngstown thru mutual friends, they could be hiding things from each other until they are married. The thing is, irregardless of how you meet, if you're hiding something detrimental, Jehovah will let it be known!!! NEVER THINK OTHERWISE!!! You can NEVER outsmart Jehovah!!!

[Brother_Bliss]

Very good point about how even someone in real life could be hiding something, and it is all about taking a risk regardless of how you met.

A friend of mine said, "So whether they're dating online, in person, by mail, by phone, by glass bottle or carrier pigeon it doesn't matter, no one's courtship is perfect and certainly no one's marriage is."

However, the Faithful Slave has brought to our attention that people find it easier to bend the truth about themselves in an online environment, minimizing or concealing their flaws and exaggerating their good qualities so as to appear more appealing. Granted, people do this in real life too, but someone is more likely to be compelled to be upfront with you when you are talking face to face.

There are a couple of Young People Ask articles on the subject of online dating chock full of good information.

- Bob

[Drew Malinowski]

"but someone is more likely to be compelled to be upfront with you when you are talking face to face."

I would have to say thats not true all the time. Anyone that texts me, e-mails me, etc, knows I like to talk through wrighting, but face to face I dont. Im more upfront when I wright things out, not face to face.

-And yes, I know I cant spell, HAHA, dont make fun.

[Brother_Bliss]

"but someone is more likely to be compelled to be upfront with you when you are talking face to face."

I would have to say thats not true all the time. Anyone that texts me, e-mails me, etc, knows I like to talk through wrighting, but face to face I dont. Im more upfront when I wright things out, not face to face.

But in this case we are talking about potential marriage mates. They better talk with their voice more than through email, text messages, instant messanger, etc, combined. Hearing the feeling and inflection of the voice is important. You and I both know of some major misunderstandings that resulted from 2 people only being able to communicate through text messages . Even online, half of the debates I see people have is them trying to explain what they really meant when they typed a message the first time, and the other party took it to mean something else.

To illustrate: When I said 'upfront', I was trying to say 'honest', as it followed "the Faithful Slave has brought to our attention that people find it easier to bend the truth about themselves in an online environment, minimizing or concealing their flaws and exaggerating their good qualities so as to appear more appealing."

Good thing we're not married . Couldn't have you starting fights with me all the time.

But I do understand what you are saying, cuz I think you jabber with me more here than you do at the Kingdom Hall

- Bob

[Drew Malinowski]

hah, yeah, putting it that way makes more sence. Im just not good with words. I need to work on that.

[Micah]

Can you see Jehovah, Jesus, and the myriads of angels texting each other???

[Drew Malinowski]

lol, they are way to cool for texting.

[aPeacefulButterfly]

Thanks guys for everything. I have been doing a lot of praying and Jon and I have decided to slow things down a bit. I appreciated all your comments and the examples. I know that no matter where you meet, it is always a challenge, but I appreciate you all caring enough to post.

I've spent the past week at the lake and can't pick up anyones WIFI there so I have been off line all week. I came into town today to have chinese lunch, yummmmmm, and was finally able to get on here. I've missed you all and will be back in Charleston Sunday morning before the meeting. Until then, just know tat I love you all and thank you for all you kindness.

Love, you sis, LaRhonda

[Linda Huang]

Hi sister LaRhonda, I just saw the topic you opened, and then realized it's been many years past. From your posts in this topic, I believe you are a very careful and sensible, that's very good quality especially when look for a life partner. Wish that all is going fine with you. 

[timpin]

Is this the record holder for oldest post resurrected?  (over 7 years and 3 months)       ...    except for Bob all others are inactive and haven't been around in many years

 

 

...  I hope peaceful success was found by LaRhonda

Edited December 23, 2016 by timpin