Is It Wrong To Ask For Help?

[Ostria]

1 minute ago, Lori said:

 

I cried reading this.    THANK YOU!!  Someone who understands me!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

YOURE BACK!!!! Ive been worried about you! 

[Lori]

On 7/2/2024 at 7:01 AM, Amygdala said:

Dearest Lori,

 

It is not wrong to reach out for help when you need it, especially spiritually. Your heavenly father cares deeply about all of his sheep, and you bet you are just as important and included!

 

Remember that God does no‘t keep account of your sins in the past… Ok. Relief, breathe. Now what you are trying to do going forward is to avoid making the same mistakes by looking at what caused you to fall away in the first place, namely your study habits, not going in the service, not praying - and that is really commendable that you saw what led to you falling away. 

 

I really like already the suggestion here to start small. Can you do that?

 

Sometimes when a person goes through depression, isn‘t it the case that there‘s this give it your all, you have to be on top of the world, have to show everyone that you are doing not just your best, but 110% your very best? But then when it‘s not achievable, you fall into a deep pit of a hole, and feel like doing nothing? That’s an “all or nothing“ view. How about trying to just be in-between?

 

If a person was missing a leg, would you expect them to join a marathon with everybody else going at their pace? You suffer from depression, so don‘t feel like you need to always be 100%. Pray for wisdom and understanding on how you can stay afloat and faithful, so that you can feel joy in your life. Ask yourself, how can I get or feel Jehovah‘s joy in my life? What are some things you can do when you are feeling down? Maybe it‘s sleep, maybe it‘s taking something for your symptoms, maybe it‘s hunger, maybe it‘s physical symptoms that a doctor needs to have a good look at.

 

What some may choose to do is just watch a video.

 

When you go to jw.org, type in “Depression“ in the search field. Then select the tab “Videos“. Binge watch some of those videos. Feel Jehovah‘s love through them. Then… if you feel a little bit better, read an article from jw.org on the subject. Spend your time feeling that comfort Jehovah promises to give.

 

Are you needing a friend? Is this why you would like a personal study? Tell the elders that. Maybe a pioneer sister can help you with how you can achieve these little goals to stay in the middle of Jehovah‘s net, and not outside of it. Cause it‘s really empty and sad out there.

 

What do you think? Don‘t get discouraged if another solution comes your way that you didn‘t expect, because that might end up being the help and support that you need. Jehovah wants to care for his sheep, but you have to let him do that in the way he knows what is best for you. Ps.55:22.

 

VIDEOS

 

 

 

 

 

I would like someone to study with me because I can't do it alone right now because I can't concentrate.   I've got so much going on in my personal life,  as well as trauma from my past that is catching up to me that I'm "scatter brained" .    

I can't even remember scriptures that I know upside down and backwards before. 

 

 

[Lori]

On 7/2/2024 at 6:44 AM, ChrisW said:

Hi hun.  Is this depression something that you take medication for? If so maybe you need to have it adjusted.  I've experienced what you're going through.... you sound like you need support and encouragement and there is nothing wrong with asking for that.  We are a family and we have a responsibility to each other. Jehovah our father of course sees you and wants to help. But you saw the need to ask for help. How wonderful ❤️ even though you are struggling you are trying to do something about it.  Don't give up sis.  Satan is wanting you to throw up your hands and say "I'm done". Keep pushing, muscles are strengthen a lil at a time so keep going.  I see strength in you sis. Don't try and lift heavy weights a lil bit at a time. 

 

I've been on medication but it stopped working. 

My past PCP was rude and judgemental the last time I saw her in December so I don't currently have a doctor.  

 

 

[truce]

4 minutes ago, Lori said:

 

I would like someone to study with me because I can't do it alone right now because I can't concentrate.   I've got so much going on in my personal life,  as well as trauma from my past that is catching up to me that I'm "scatter brained" .    

I can't even remember scriptures that I know upside down and backwards before. 

 

 

https://www.jw.org/finder?srcid=jwlshare&wtlocale=E&lank=pub-osg_61_VIDEO

[Lori]

On 7/2/2024 at 11:23 AM, Witness1970 said:

There is nothing wrong with asking for help.  The problem is that most of us hate to ask for help.  It's just a common tendency we all have.

 

 

It's a big problem for me in my current congregation because of past experiences from 1998 to current.   I was treated badly. 

If I were still up north in the Weston Congregation I don't think that I'd be having these issues.   but I can't move back. 

 

 

[Lori]

On 7/2/2024 at 8:00 AM, Dhanyel said:

We always have something to learn in a Bible study!

 

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Lori]

7 minutes ago, truce said:

https://www.jw.org/finder?srcid=jwlshare&wtlocale=E&lank=pub-osg_61_VIDEO

 

Thank you, dear Brother.    I've never seen or heard that before.   

 

I'm going to try to keep fighting.   

[truce]

4 minutes ago, Lori said:

 

Thank you, dear Brother.    I've never seen or heard that before.   

 

I'm going to try to keep fighting.   

It's about a young obviously single sister struggling with loneliness and depression. You'll love it. 

[Tortuga]

1 hour ago, Lori said:

 

I've been on medication but it stopped working. 

My past PCP was rude and judgemental the last time I saw her in December so I don't currently have a doctor.  

 

 

Sister, all of us are imperfect and broken because of Satan, I am truly sorry for the struggles that you are having. Our imperfect broken bodies respond to chemical and hormone changes differently, so I strongly suggest that you have a doctor that helps you find the balance that you need. 

[ChrisW]

It is good to see you back on. I know I'm not the only one that's been worried and concerned about you. You've been in my prayers.  Keep reaching out for the assistance that you need.  Jehovah can help you. Keep talking to him about what you are going through. 

[Joey]

If you want to study (unofficially) I'm willing. Just sister to sister.

I listen great! And though I talk about my issues here I never do that in person or with studies.

Message if you're interested, we can zoom!

[Timl1980]

My dear dear sister Lori,

 

I was saddened to see this thread, but at the time time...it actually encouraged me. I know that may sound strange...how could I be encouraged when my sister is spilling out her heart...baring her darkest thoughts and troubles in what seems is a last-ditch effort to receive help?

 

Simply put, you haven't given up.

 

When we read your thoughts and feelings...when we hear them expressed in such a raw and unfiltered format...it pricks us...it opens wounds in us that some of us have long since buried...while in others...fresh wounds spring up amidst their own contusions.

 

The very fact that you keep coming back to this site, that you keep reaching out...it's encouraging...and I see from the responses that some stand ready to help you with your study request...and that is also encouraging.

 

Please read the following verse with me...and allow Jehovah's words as spoken through the Apostle Paul to seep through your heart and mind...and please try to SEE what Jehovah wants YOU to understand from this single powerful verse...

 

1 Thessalonians 5:14: "On the other hand, we urge you, brothers, to warn the disorderly, speak consolingly to those who are depressed, support the weak, be patient toward all."

 

My dear sister...you are not disorderly by any means or stretch of the imagination...so what's left?

 

Speak consolingly to the depressed...support the weak...be patient toward all.

 

In the original Greek...to speak consolingly to the depressed, (or the depressed souls), means someone who is labouring under such trouble that their heart sinks within them.

 

Does that describe you?

 

You, my precious sister...are in excellent company.

 

 I am going to allow Jehovah to continue speaking to you, my dear sister. Please read the following article carefully...try to feel the millions upon millions of virtual hugs and expressions of TRUE Agape love wash over you as you see how Jehovah feels about YOU!

 

How to Help Depressed Ones Regain Joy — Watchtower ONLINE LIBRARY (jw.org)