Family Help

[bobby]

Q. how do you dell with someone that has disability’s

My uncle has an IQ of 68 and cant read or wright, fiscally

Nothing  is rough with him  he has work in the past

He lived with for a short time in the 90’s he was never told  

 to respect other people rule or their home, car  and  he

Expect you to pay all the bills do all the cleaning and pay for all the food

And do all the cooking,.  He is living with my aunt and her husband  

Reason im asking is im playing to go visit them I know he wiil ask me to

Move to southern Calif, we never got a long when he was living with mom and I  

My aunt  know this I and so she will not ask so does my cousin how live with them

To me he to depended and intidel  he does not wont to  in depended

[➕👇 ꓤꓱꓷꓠꓵ🎵Tone]

Q. how do you dell with someone that has disability’s
My uncle has an IQ of 68 and...

It is commendable to help family or relatives.
However, count the cost. One sister in our congregation let her grandson in to try help him out.
As a disabled person he was set up with a lot of government support. He left all this to move interstate to be with his grandmother.
It ended in disaster.
She could not cope. Has since had a stroke (not sure if it's related).
After some difficult months, he moved back. He was put back on the bottom of wait list for government support again (which he had).
It was admirable for her to help out, but I think the heart won over the head, and it cost her a lot - emotionally, physically and mentally.
Please count the cost. Ask mature ones in the cong for advice. They will see things more objectively.
Then, whatever the decision, you will know what to expect.
All the best.

Just Older

[Ahuvah]

Hey there Bobby ...  you have a really kind wonderufl heart.

It's very easy because Jehovah has taught us to have empathy - to have empathy to the detriment of our spirituality.

It's a misplaced kindness sometimes to put our lives on hold or change our lives to fit in with others only to find out:

A. Things are actually what they seemed to be when it was first conveyed to you.

B. Suddenly time you spent with Jehovah is non existant and you might even find yourself going backwards spiritually.

 

So as with anything we do ... pray to Jehovah for direction, and do research in conjunction with your prayers. Look for ways of helping in other directions - making sure they have the support they need from secular authorities. Make sure they have something in place in case of an accident - and ring them routinely to make sure they are okay. 

 

If you don't get along with a relative when you are at a distance, I can't see it getting better if you start living closer.

 

don't let yourself feel pressured please Bobby ... I know you have struggles of your own - keep your life as simple as you can make it.

Your big Sis down here in NZ.

 

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[Miss Bea]

Wow! Big one. First of all, is he getting any government assistance? Wherever he is. That will provide a bit of money to help with expenses. He will need a person to handle it. A conservator. It can be done. My husband did it for his nephew. 
Housing can be found for ones that cannot manage themselves. (The money ran out, eventually. He stole from us. Ended our help. Had to be on the street to learn. He now has the conservator. A state lady. Has his own apartment, and is off the street) 

But, I worry it will be too much for you. Pray. Pray. Pray.
It’s like having an adult who is a spoiled child. The child business is one thing. Being irresponsible, and acting spoiled is another. Give it much prayerful thought. Will this person try to cook while you aren’t home. Fire danger. 
We have a lot on our plate during this critical time. 
Don’t let your heart rule your mind. Maybe talk to a brother you feel close to. Get Jehovah’s input. 
I wish you well, my brother...