Génealogy

[blanchard]

Genealogy should be put in which category ?

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6 hours ago, blanchard said:

Genealogy should be put in which category ?

 

Are you referring to Genesis the 5th Cpt?

[blanchard]

Sorry, but my hobby concerns familial genealogy. Where do yo come from your ancesters

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2 hours ago, blanchard said:

Sorry, but my hobby concerns familial genealogy. Where do yo come from your ancesters

 

 Sometimes it can be crazy. Finding your ancestors can run into brick walls when others do not want you to know their true background. I found this out when I was tracing my Native American side.

[kejedo]

My genealogy question: My birth certificate dad, (Jim deceased) was my mother's husband, but  most probably not my bio dad,Ed, also deceased. JIm had three children with my  mother, not including myself. He had 4 children with his second wife, also  deceased. The youngest child of his has passed away.His children from second wife consider me their sister. Dad knew, but didn't tell.I would like to know my real parenting and maybe do a DNA test. Should I confide in my younger "sisters"or just live with this? Those who have daddy dilemma understand. I am a senior citizen, now, and may not be able to know for sure. 

[blanchard]

Your story is complicated.
Personally, I took a DNA test.
As for whether or not to speak out, that's a personal choice because the consequences can be significant.
Have a good day.

[Witness1970]

6 hours ago, kejedo said:

My genealogy question: My birth certificate dad, (Jim deceased) was my mother's husband, but  most probably not my bio dad,Ed, also deceased. JIm had three children with my  mother, not including myself. He had 4 children with his second wife, also  deceased. The youngest child of his has passed away.His children from second wife consider me their sister. Dad knew, but didn't tell.I would like to know my real parenting and maybe do a DNA test. Should I confide in my younger "sisters"or just live with this? Those who have daddy dilemma understand. I am a senior citizen, now, and may not be able to know for sure. 

A DNA test could tell you who your actual siblings are, but only if they also take a DNA test for comparison.

Edited Friday at 09:03 AM by Witness1970

[blanchard]

5 hours ago, Witness1970 said:

A DNA test could tell you who your actual siblings are, but only if they also take a DNA test for comparison

and I would add that the test is taken in the same company

[kejedo]

3 hours ago, blanchard said:

and I would add that the test is taken in the same company

I  messaged my youngest sister an just asked"Do you know if anyone took a dna test?" I might pay for my older sister to take a corresponding test. We are at least halves.

 

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On 7/4/2025 at 1:57 PM, kejedo said:

I  messaged my youngest sister an just asked"Do you know if anyone took a dna test?" I might pay for my older sister to take a corresponding test. We are at least halves.

 

 

 It is good to take a DNA test or more. But, do your family research can help you out at times. By doing so, can detect that someone hiding something. Personally, I hit a brick wall while doing some research on my native american side. By doing some deep reasearch, I broke the wall down and prove that there is some native american in our family history and  a picture too.  

 

 Regarding the picture, it shocked the community too.

[blanchard]

Many americans have also europen roots

[kejedo]

My bio dad, EDdie had a brother, now deceased, and I met one cousin thru his line (1970s), that I could not find again. Some of my mother's line knew Eddie as he was a lifelong friend of my maternal grandfather. Eddie had moved to Florida to live with or near my rwo maternal aunts and died there. When I heard (thru my brother ED) he had passed, I called his brother Bob, whose number I had. He answered, "Is this Pauline, the school teacher, Margaret's daughter?" Why yes, it was.  Eddie told me he was leaving me "something." If it was a picture of the thoroughbred race horse we co-owned, I would have liked it as I Iost my only picture of that horse, Brian B. Run. If Eddie had money left behind around my Aunts (both deceased,) I would not have seen any of it. My mother moved a lot and we never were  able to keep things. My husband (now deceased)moved a lot, also. Other than myself, Eddie died without issue, not without issues.  My mother and her sisters could not keep hold of things.  They were spenders and had a number of addictions.  I'm the saver. What DNA company is recommended? Side notes, Myolder brother is named ED: I believe mybio Dad is named Ed" My maternal grandfather was also ED. When there is or are secrets in the family, it is damaging

Edited Monday at 05:52 PM by kejedo

[kejedo]

In my family, I was the secret and it makes the identified person feel uncomfotrable, and unmatched due to the whispers,sidelong glances, and rolled eyes. I feel this is a  type of informal adoption and the sooner people are honest about the birth, the better off all will be. I  also  think this  is the motivation for many seeking DNA answers.

[kejedo]

Glenn, please tell more about the picture. My sons girlfriend happened to come across a binder I have of my  husband's African roots. and ancestors.  He was easier to  trace but  no picture of his earliest relative/slave on this continent.

[kejedo]

34 minutes ago, blanchard said:

Many americans have also europen roots

My youngest had ancestry done. My sons thought they were 1/2 African, half Sicilian Italian. Those elements were on my son's report but not 50/50

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3 hours ago, kejedo said:

Glenn, please tell more about the picture. My sons girlfriend happened to come across a binder I have of my  husband's African roots. and ancestors.  He was easier to  trace but  no picture of his earliest relative/slave on this continent.

 

 Actually it was a drawing of her and it was hanging on a wall of her descendant's. When their descendants were getting old, they told the family members to grab hold of things. A distant relative got hold of the picture and when I asked her or daughter what they know about their Native American background (because  I knew they have that background), she told me that this individual (my ggg grandma) was Indian and ask me do you want a copy of it, and the door was opened. Yes, she was half German and half Indian. This opened the area of Frankfort, Indiana eyes because many have doubts of the family Native American background.

 

 When share that picture around in that area, I was told that I put the icing on the cake.