Right or Wrong to recommend a mate to ourselves

[Xtian]

Why are people afraid to recommended a mate to someone?🤔  I see nothing wrong with that. 

[AYMA]

Mmmm... today's daily text (Sunday July 26) and references may answer your question. The caution and not so much fear, is how one goes about it. 

[secondofseven]

I dont see anything wrong, provided:

 

- You have a personal relationship (beyond random brother or sister) with the person being single.

 

- He or she is actively looking for a mate.

 

I guess in the past a lot of brothers and sisters assumed every person being single needs help. And some see themselves as matchmakers. Without knowing and considering if a person wants it.

[Nnaemeka]

There's a WT article on that. 2 or more weeks back. Go read it.
My personal take: Gal. 6:5. Would you allow someone to carry your load of looking for a mate yourself? Remember you both are unique. What A loves in a woman might be what you don't like until you have personal communication with her then you judge for yourself during courtship. You can ask others what they think about a sister or that sister... Recommend is pushing responsibility. Ask what they think about her not that others/they recommend. Carry your load. Just my 2 cents.

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[Sheep]

1 hour ago, Nnaemeka said:

There's a WT article on that. 2 or more weeks back. Go read it.
My personal take: Gal. 6:5. Would you allow someone to carry your load of looking for a mate yourself? Remember you both are unique. What A loves in a woman might be what you don't like until you have personal communication with her then you judge for yourself during courtship. You can ask others what they think about a sister or that sister... Recommend is pushing responsibility. Ask what they think about her not that others/they recommend. Carry your load. Just my 2 cents.

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"Carry your load." That's good counsel. Remembering that it is a great responsibility to "introduce," or recommend a sister to a certain brother, or vice versa. If someone asks for help in being introduced to someone, perhaps that would be acceptable. But if not, then it's none of our business. At least that's my opinion.

 

Years ago, a married couple thought they were good matchmakers, and thought they were doing good to recommend a sister to a brother who was wanting to get married. And so that's what they did. But, let's just say it didn't go well! He followed up on their recommendation. In the long run, they dated for a while, but then the sister broke off the relationship with him. The brother was absolutely crushed, and couldn't bring himself to even speak to the married couple for a long time afterward. I won't go into more details.