I want to get married, but should I wait until the new system?

[DayjaJW]

Hello friends! My name is Dayja, I’m a 28 year old sister, I’ve been baptized for 6 years. I have always desired to have a mate, but I have not had success with finding one. I’ve actually never had a relationship or dated seriously. It has been somewhat discouraging, because I have felt overlooked, while some sisters are able to get attention from brothers more easily. My main concern at this time, is to focus on my spiritually and do more for Jehovah, as well as adopt qualities that would make a better wife, as well as work on my physical appearance. However, the desire for mate is still strong and sometimes I worry if I will ever find true love, but I determined to wait on Jehovah. Which brings me to my question for those who are married who have felt like me, if you were to go back, would you get married again? Did married life make you happier? Or would it be better for me to wait until the new system to get married?

[Dages]

7 hours ago, DayjaJW said:

My main concern at this time, is to focus on my spiritually and do more for Jehovah, as well as adopt qualities that would make a better wife...

That's the best thing to do. Jehovah will provides when you don't expect it.

 

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Which brings me to my question for those who are married who have felt like me, if you were to go back, would you get married again? Did married life make you happier? Or would it be better for me to wait until the new system to get married?

- Yes.
- I was already happy. It just bring a different kind of happiness.
- No one can answer this question in your behalf. Rejoice in Jehovah, he will bring you opportunities.

Just make sure any potential mate LOVES JEHOVAH more than you  
 

[blanchard]

14 hours ago, DayjaJW said:

Which brings me to my question for those who are married who have felt like me, if you were to go back, would you get married again?

Yes, I am married since 53 years but the more important to be realy happy is to put Jéhovah at the first place

[ucastrobr]

 I was married twice and am now a widow. For me, marriage will only be possible in the new system.

I don't have more patient for it.

I Corinthians 7:28 But even if you did marry, you would commit no sin. And if a virgin married, such a person would commit no sin. However, those who do will have tribulation in their flesh. But I am trying to spare you.

[Pink Butterflies]

20 hours ago, DayjaJW said:

the desire for mate is still strong and sometimes I worry if I will ever find true love, but I determined to wait on Jehovah. Which brings me to my question for those who are married who have felt like me, if you were to go back, would you get married again? Did married life make you happier?

My dear sister/daughter, trust me I’ve been married twice both times to brothers. But I’ve been my happiest single. It’s not that I didn’t want headship or had a problem with submission. There are predatory brothers who lurk for vulnerable sisters. They love the part of us being in submission but fail to lead like Christ. Enjoy being single as a sister with Christ as your head, until that new system comes, you’ll have the best provider a friend possible. Marriage can be the most beautiful relationship in your life but it can also be your worse. You won’t be single forever so enjoy serving as fully as possible for now 

[angellionel]

On 12/22/2025 at 12:26 PM, DayjaJW said:

Which brings me to my question for those who are married who have felt like me, if you were to go back, would you get married again? Did married life make you happier?

My wife and I have been married for 43 years; she was 20 and I was 22 when we were married. Have our years together been trouble-free? Definitely not! There is no such thing as a trouble-free marriage in this system. Problems and challenges do arise, especially when a couple marries young. But if both work together, forgive one another, and maintain love and affection, they can navigate those turbulent times. However, it is even more important to always keep Jehovah at the center of the marriage. After all, He instituted it. Who better to guide married couples? And yes, we are very happy. As for doing it all over again, I absolutely would, and I know my wife feels the same way.

 

As to your own situation, as David stated, "No one can answer this question in your behalf. Rejoice in Jehovah, he will bring you opportunities."

[LeolaRootStew]

4 hours ago, angellionel said:

My wife and I have been married for 43 years; she was 20 and I was 22 when we were married. Have our years together been trouble-free? Definitely not! There is no such thing as a trouble-free marriage in this system. Problems and challenges do arise, especially when a couple marries young. But if both work together, forgive one another, and maintain love and affection, they can navigate those turbulent times. However, it is even more important to always keep Jehovah at the center of the marriage. After all, He instituted it. Who better to guide married couples? And yes, we are very happy. As for doing it all over again, I absolutely would, and I know my wife feels the same way.

 

As to your own situation, as David stated, "No one can answer this question in your behalf. Rejoice in Jehovah, he will bring you opportunities."

 

Not to hijack this topic, but I've heard from almost every married couple who is asked that marriage "isn't easy!" and it's usually accompanied by wide eyes and a sigh. What makes it so hard?

[Barbllm]

On 12/23/2025 at 9:50 PM, LeolaRootStew said:

 

Not to hijack this topic, but I've heard from almost every married couple who is asked that marriage "isn't easy!" and it's usually accompanied by wide eyes and a sigh. What makes it so hard?

As someone who was married for 10 years and has been single for a while now, marriage is work. It's the every day choices you make about being kind to your spouse when he (she) disappoints you or forgets to do something you asked. It's the looks you exchange over dinner when the kids are complaining because they don't like broccoli and you've both had long days at work but you know that it's Family Worship night. Marriage requires giving, and some days you feel like you can't give anything else. 

[Tronora]

Well, to balance things off: I was married to an unbeliever. I LOVED being married. He went to the meetings, and was an unbaptized publisher. We weren't even a good match. We were a TERRIBLE match. But we had each other. Daily quarrels, but also lots of joy. The daily "sharing of life".

 

Living without a spouse decade after decade is killing me softly. I am single, and I hate it. Don't talk to me about the troubles of marriage. After 30 + years where you have to tackle life alone (I have no family in the truth), THEN come to me.

Edited Friday at 06:31 PM by Tronora