Can one remain as a boy after marriage?

[vern]

Just use Jehovah to grow.

What is considered good things to men may not be to Jehovah

 

Jehovah created the young to play and enjoy themselves.... I'm not sure growing out of it is his plan.

 

Not that I know the balance or anything but I do know what women seem to want is someone to do the hard part of life for them....

 

Carlos is a good answer... Responsibility will effect you.

 

Marriage should be a friendly affectionate appreciation thing...odviously with love.  Shouldn't,t need to make changes for someone... Only be if it's ok with Jehovah's word 

[Hope]

2 hours ago, vern said:

Just use Jehovah to grow.

What is considered good things to men may not be to Jehovah

 

Jehovah created the young to play and enjoy themselves.... I'm not sure growing out of it is his plan.

 

Not that I know the balance or anything but I do know what women seem to want is someone to do the hard part of life for them....

 

Carlos is a good answer... Responsibility will effect you.

 

Marriage should be a friendly affectionate appreciation thing...odviously with love.  Shouldn't,t need to make changes for someone... Only be if it's ok with Jehovah's word 

 

Honestly curious - what is the hard part of life women want someone to do for them?  I've never heard that expressed before.

[Old]

44 minutes ago, Hope said:

 

Honestly curious - what is the hard part of life women want someone to do for them?  I've never heard that expressed before.

Me either.

[pnutts]

1 hour ago, Hope said:

what is the hard part of life women want someone to do for them

Take out the trash. Clean the cat litter. Just ask my wife. ☺️

[Hope]

37 minutes ago, pnutts said:

Take out the trash. Clean the cat litter. Just ask my wife. ☺️

 

I have no doubt that if I was to marry, I'd still be cleaning the cat box and probably taking out the trash at least half the time.  

[coony77]

Timothy, you can remain a kid for your WHOLE LIFE - you just have to know which moments in life require seriousness 😉 

 

My husband is a 54 year old child 

And I'm so glad about it! He is a very responsible person, but at the same time a real clown. One thing I love most about him is that he always makes me laugh....

[SAMENDIO]

On 5/23/2019 at 12:57 PM, Jonathan77 said:

If you are not ready for marriage, then why are you dating?  

Some men are fully ready for marriage, but may find it very difficult to see a suitable mate to date

[Arumuga Raja]

As a Potential Marriage Mate

Take, for example, the matter of marriage. It is a gift from Jehovah God, the one “to whom every family in heaven and on earth owes its name.” (Ephesians 3:15) Perhaps it is your desire to marry some day. If so, to what extent are you recommending yourself as a potential marriage partner? Yes, what reputation have you made for yourself as a single Christian man or woman?

In some lands this is of great concern to families. In Ghana, for example, when two persons wish to marry each other, it is the tradition for the prospective couple to inform their parents. These, in turn, inform other family members. The man’s family then sets about ascertaining the woman’s reputation in the neighborhood. When the parents are convinced of the woman’s suitability, they will inform the woman’s family of their son’s intention to marry the daughter. The woman’s family now checks the reputation of the man before consenting to the marriage. A Ghanaian adage thus says, “Ask those who should know before you enter into marriage.”

What about Western lands, where individuals are generally allowed to select their own marriage mates? Even there, a mature Christian man or woman would be wise to seek a candid recommendation from those who know a potential mate well, such as parents or mature friends. According to the book The Secret of Family Happiness, a young woman might ask: “‘What kind of reputation does this man have? Who are his friends? Does he display self-control? How does he treat elderly persons? What kind of family does he come from? How does he interact with them? What is his attitude toward money? Does he abuse alcoholic beverages? Is he temperamental, even violent? What congregation responsibilities does he have, and how does he handle them? Could I deeply respect him?’—Leviticus 19:32; Proverbs 22:29;31:23; Ephesians 5:3-5, 33; 1 Timothy 5:8; 6:10; Titus 2:6, 7.”*

A man would likewise want to inquire about any Christian woman he is considering marrying. According to the Bible, Boaz took such an interest in Ruth, the woman he later married. When Ruth asked: “How is it I have found favor in your eyes so that I am taken notice of, when I am a foreigner?” Boaz said: “The report was fully made to me of all that you have done.” (Ruth 2:10-12) Yes, not only did Boaz personally observe that Ruth was a loyal, dedicated, and hardworking woman but he also received favorable comments from others.

Similarly, your conduct will have a bearing on whether others view you as a suitable marriage mate. Just how are you recommending yourself to others in this regard?

Edited June 8, 2019 by Arumuga Raja

[Old]

2 hours ago, Arumuga Raja said:

As a Potential Marriage Mate

Take, for example, the matter of marriage. It is a gift from Jehovah God, the one “to whom every family in heaven and on earth owes its name.” (Ephesians 3:15) Perhaps it is your desire to marry some day. If so, to what extent are you recommending yourself as a potential marriage partner? Yes, what reputation have you made for yourself as a single Christian man or woman?

In some lands this is of great concern to families. In Ghana, for example, when two persons wish to marry each other, it is the tradition for the prospective couple to inform their parents. These, in turn, inform other family members. The man’s family then sets about ascertaining the woman’s reputation in the neighborhood. When the parents are convinced of the woman’s suitability, they will inform the woman’s family of their son’s intention to marry the daughter. The woman’s family now checks the reputation of the man before consenting to the marriage. A Ghanaian adage thus says, “Ask those who should know before you enter into marriage.”

What about Western lands, where individuals are generally allowed to select their own marriage mates? Even there, a mature Christian man or woman would be wise to seek a candid recommendation from those who know a potential mate well, such as parents or mature friends. According to the book The Secret of Family Happiness, a young woman might ask: “‘What kind of reputation does this man have? Who are his friends? Does he display self-control? How does he treat elderly persons? What kind of family does he come from? How does he interact with them? What is his attitude toward money? Does he abuse alcoholic beverages? Is he temperamental, even violent? What congregation responsibilities does he have, and how does he handle them? Could I deeply respect him?’—Leviticus 19:32; Proverbs 22:29;31:23; Ephesians 5:3-5, 33; 1 Timothy 5:8; 6:10; Titus 2:6, 7.”*

A man would likewise want to inquire about any Christian woman he is considering marrying. According to the Bible, Boaz took such an interest in Ruth, the woman he later married. When Ruth asked: “How is it I have found favor in your eyes so that I am taken notice of, when I am a foreigner?” Boaz said: “The report was fully made to me of all that you have done.” (Ruth 2:10-12) Yes, not only did Boaz personally observe that Ruth was a loyal, dedicated, and hardworking woman but he also received favorable comments from others.

Similarly, your conduct will have a bearing on whether others view you as a suitable marriage mate. Just how are you recommending yourself to others in this regard?

All so true.

The above appears to be out of our publications, which if it is or if it is quoted from any printed source you need to provide that source.

[McKay]

On 5/23/2019 at 12:07 AM, NobleEndeavours said:

Many brothers seem to have succeeded in being the ideal husbands and to have no emotional conflict in the process of trying to meet the requirements. 

Ha!

 

My wife and I have a happy marriage filled with lots of hilarity and goofiness. I'm 41 and she's 39. Am I the ideal husband? No way, but my wife often has sisters make comments about how fortunate she is. (Likewise, my close friends often remind me of the same regarding my wife.) My wife seems to think I am the ideal husband...for her. And that's the most important thing in my opinion. If you're not comfortable being yourself with a sister it may not mean there's anything wrong with either of you. It just could mean you're not right for each other. There is no "one" for you. There are probably hundreds of thousands that you are compatible with. It's a matter of degree.

 

Also, I do not feel emotionally ready for marriage or parenthood and I have four kids and been married for 15 years. But somehow I manage through it and seem to hold it together. That's the power of Jehovah and his gift of wine!  😁

[Katty]

I know the OP question was likely thoroughly answered, but I just wanted to say there are acceptable and unacceptable ways to act like a kid, and appropriate times to do so as it say in Ecclesiastes 3. I think people put way too much emphasis on doing away with acceptable ways of being childlike when you're an adult because somehow people get the idea you have to be serious all the time to be a grown up. Of course, if you shirk important responsibilities, fail to pay bills when you have the means to do so, and willfully refuse to work or to support those who are in your care, this is a serious problem that you need to rectify.

But if you're someone who likes to tell jokes, read comic books, play video games, watch cartoons, play board games, and maybe even have a few action figures, what's wrong with that? So long as you're taking care of your responsibilities, what you do beyond that is up to you. I mean, Ferb likes cartoons, comic strips, comic book films, and video games but I think he's the most mature person I've ever dated, because he's spiritual, disciplined, works hard and is frugal with his money. That's the kind of maturity that really matters.

[Katty]

On 5/29/2019 at 11:42 PM, Hope said:

 

Honestly curious - what is the hard part of life women want someone to do for them?  I've never heard that expressed before.

That comment made me wonder as well. I mean, I know there are some girls that are super entitled and you even have this meme floating around of 'things a woman in a relationship should never have to touch' and the only ones I remember are bills and the interior of a car door. But, I mean it's not unreasonable that men do the harder jobs in life that require more strength because men are stronger than women. It's not unreasonable to ask men to face things that are more emotionally draining because men don't get carried away with their emotions as much as women can when under a lot of stress. I'm not saying this is always the case, but it is in a lot of cases. I know for me, I don't ask David to do something unless I've tried my best and I absolutely can't handle something, but, at the same time, I handle stuff that he struggles with, as well, so it is a two way street, because both genders have limitations that the other can help with.

Edited June 27, 2019 by Katty

[nzbeeker]

Just so you know... if you haven’t grown up by 50... you don’t have to.

[vern]

Jesus said the kingdom belonged to such like ones as children.....