Singleness credited with longevity of life

[Shawnster]

https://www.wlky.com/article/woman-turns-107-and-shares-her-secret-to-longevity-i-never-got-married-1564650818/28574101#

 

BRONX COUNTY, N.Y. —

A woman who celebrated her 107th birthday on Wednesday shared her secret to living a long life: stay single.

 

Louise Signore, who lives in the Bronx in New York, maintains a healthy diet and exercises regularly. But she believes the real reason why she's enjoyed more than a century is because she never tied the knot.

 

"I think the secret of 107: I never got married. I think that's the secret. My sister says, 'I wish I never got married.'"

[JennyM]

Yes.. marriage is not everything.. 

 

Its requires much hard work and effort. 

[➕👇 ꓤꓱꓷꓠꓵ🎵Tone]

Married Men and Mortality - Harvard Health Study
[it might be a gender thing]

A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. But is marriage itself responsible for better health and longer life?

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-men's-health

Just Older

[Hope]

Living another 53 years on my own doesn't sound any more attractive than the past 54 years have been, to be honest.  It sounds incredibly tiring... 😕 

[Cherie]

56 minutes ago, Hope said:

Living another 53 years on my own doesn't sound any more attractive than the past 54 years have been, to be honest.  It sounds incredibly tiring... 😕 

Proud of you Uani. I'm sure the demons throw "perfect" non-believing men at you all the time. Yet you keep on hanging tough! 

[tuntun]

I once read an expression. Two are better than one if I'm not mistaken ... 🙄

[Hope]

4 hours ago, Cherie said:

Proud of you Uani. I'm sure the demons throw "perfect" non-believing men at you all the time. Yet you keep on hanging tough! 

Thank you! But, no-- I don't attract worldly guys either, but at least that's good.  I really don't struggle with bad options.  Just no options. 😉😜

 

I'm just trudging along, getting from one day to the next. Happy to have you friends!  💝

[JennyM]

10 hours ago, Hope said:

Living another 53 years on my own doesn't sound any more attractive than the past 54 years have been, to be honest.  It sounds incredibly tiring... 😕 

Thats the dilemma of most sisters.. But anyway, "patience is the key" 

 

Jacob was  77 years old when  he was still single.. Then he has to work 14 years for Rachel... Then Rachel died while giving birth.  😞

[Bek]

The old lady in the news article says that she "did not tie the knot", which means she was only unmarried, but it does not mean she was single. You can be unmarried and have partners. Being single in the world is not the same as being single as a JW.

 

So this old lady may have enjoyed rushes of endorphins from fleshly pleasures without the problems that come with marriage. Mind you, there is research that  says sex can increase life expectancy. 

 

 

Edited August 2, 2019 by Hun

[Saffron]

11 hours ago, Cherie said:

I'm sure the demons throw "perfect" non-believing men at you all the time. Yet you keep on hanging tough! 

If they aren't sending too many to her, maybe it's because they are busy sending them to me. Lol 

 

I am being sent high quality men who are successful and charming on a semi regular basis.. exactly what I would have gone for. My good friend is experiencing the same, so I'm guessing they are ramping up their efforts across the board. 🙄

 

[Hope]

5 hours ago, Hun said:

The old lady in the news article says that she "did not tie the knot", which means she was only unmarried, but it does not mean she was single. You can be unmarried and have partners. Being single in the world is not the same as being single as a JW.

 

So this old lady may have enjoyed rushes of endorphins from fleshly pleasures without the problems that come with marriage. Mind you, there is research that  says sex can increase life expectancy. 

 

 

another reason to not mind not having an extra long life... 😕   😉 

 

 

3 hours ago, Saffron said:

If they aren't sending too many to her, maybe it's because they are busy sending them to me. Lol 

 

I am being sent high quality men who are successful and charming on a semi regular basis.. exactly what I would have gone for. My good friend is experiencing the same, so I'm guessing they are ramping up their efforts across the board. 🙄

 

That must be sort of amazing in a certain way.  I ONLY have ever gotten men who need me to take care of them in some way - little or no job, low spirituality, not very good looking.  Maybe that's what I go for... 🤔

[Saffron]

5 minutes ago, Hope said:

That must be sort of amazing in a certain way.  I ONLY have ever gotten men who need me to take care of them in some way - little or no job, low spirituality, not very good looking.  Maybe that's what I go for... 🤔

Not amazing. These are men in the world. 🤣🤣

Perfectly good looking, well dressed, educated, well spoken ect.. worldly men. 

 

Up until now I never understood how this could be an actual temptation for a sister, but I sure do now... Few eligible brothers, many sisters interested in them, then worldly guys of seemingly high quality popping up all over the place. It's the perfect storm. 

[Hope]

30 minutes ago, Saffron said:

Not amazing. These are men in the world. 🤣🤣

Perfectly good looking, well dressed, educated, well spoken ect.. worldly men. 

 

Up until now I never understood how this could be an actual temptation for a sister, but I sure do now... Few eligible brothers, many sisters interested in them, then worldly guys of seemingly high quality popping up all over the place. It's the perfect storm. 

What I described are the worldly guys, too.   The only difference is that they're not Witnesses... so at least that makes them even less attractive.  But no - I do not meet fine worldly men who want to "take me away from all this".  Just scrubs.  There is a lovely, kind and decent man here at my office who would be perfect if he was a brother and not engaged to be married in three weeks.  He is mild, hard-working (was just promoted to account executive today!), smart and funny, has great teeth, warm eyes and a handsome beard 😉 -- and stayed with his fiancee during her battle with cancer for two years.  That sort of man does not approach me.  If I like a brother who seems to be that way, he is never interested in me.

 

I'm grateful I don't have that temptation for worldly guys, tho.  One of my very dear friends is being disfellowshipped next Thursday because of being unable to resist such temptation from some dude called, Mauricio..  She was a pioneer buddy and struggled with a lot of things..  and she's lost now.  😭

Edited August 2, 2019 by Hope

[Dustparticle]

I would had a lot of stress if I was marred. Have to know your limitations.

[Saffron]

14 minutes ago, Hope said:

One of my very dear friends is being disfellowshipped next Thursday because of being unable to resist such temptation from some dude called, Mauricio.. 

That is horrible and quite painful for you as well, I'm sure. It really hurts when we lose someone like this, even if it's only temporary. I truly hope that she starts working her way back asap. 

 

As far as the worldly guys go, maybe you are just so busy working, attending meetings, and pioneering that there is no easy way to get to you. It's different for me. I have kids and am always running around here and there, plus medical problems, so lots of dealing with people during appointments ect. I'm frequently, in some way, shape, or form, around worldly men, so there is plenty of opportunity. The other thing that may be adding fuel to the fire is that I don't look my age. I'm in my 40s, but people guess me to be 30 or so. 

 

You are very pretty, plus obviously intelligent and well spoken, so that can not be the problem. Could it be that you don't seem approachable for some reason? Or could it be your area? Could be so many things, really.

[Hope]

3 hours ago, Saffron said:

That is horrible and quite painful for you as well, I'm sure. It really hurts when we lose someone like this, even if it's only temporary. I truly hope that she starts working her way back asap. 

 

As far as the worldly guys go, maybe you are just so busy working, attending meetings, and pioneering that there is no easy way to get to you. It's different for me. I have kids and am always running around here and there, plus medical problems, so lots of dealing with people during appointments ect. I'm frequently, in some way, shape, or form, around worldly men, so there is plenty of opportunity. The other thing that may be adding fuel to the fire is that I don't look my age. I'm in my 40s, but people guess me to be 30 or so. 

 

You are very pretty, plus obviously intelligent and well spoken, so that can not be the problem. Could it be that you don't seem approachable for some reason? Or could it be your area? Could be so many things, really.

Ah, it really doesn't matter.  People in this area get married all the time.. of course the sisters are younger.  I've been told I'm intimidating but can't really get details as to what that means..  

 

I've always worked a regular full-time job around all worldly people and I go pretty much everywhere by myself.  Still not fighting the fellas off but again - I'm very grateful for that.  As bored and lonesome as I often am, that would not be good.

 

I will miss my friend.  She already did not come to meeting last night because she was "uncomfortable".  I hope she's there for the announcement; that's part of the discipline.  She was one of my few in "the circle".. 😢  

[runner92]

That’s nice. But I still want to be married though. 

[JennyM]

7 hours ago, Saffron said:

Not amazing. These are men in the world. 🤣🤣

Perfectly good looking, well dressed, educated, well spoken ect.. worldly men. 

 

Up until now I never understood how this could be an actual temptation for a sister, but I sure do now... Few eligible brothers, many sisters interested in them, then worldly guys of seemingly high quality popping up all over the place. It's the perfect storm. 

Worldly guys are so passionate in chasing sisters.. 

 

When I was in the office, he really never gives up.. He's good looking too.. same with brothers for sure. 

 

While when you're in khall, you are like invisible... Few brothers.. There was a bro that I noticed but low in spirituality...   When he approached me , he did flirting not dignified courting.  and I  also noticed here in our place  that either you are a good looking sister or sister with good job or  with property.    Then you can marry.  I don't have them both yet.😁

[JennyM]

7 hours ago, Hope said:

  There is a lovely, kind and decent man here at my office who would be perfect if he was a brother and not engaged to be married in three weeks.  He is mild, hard-working (was just promoted to account executive today!), smart and funny, has great teeth, warm eyes and a handsome beard 😉 -- and stayed with his fiancee during her battle with cancer for two years.  That sort of man does not approach me.  If I like a brother who seems to be that way, he is never interested in me.

 

He has good qualities.. Maybe he could be a witness someday. 😊

[tuntun]

1 hour ago, JennyM said:

While when you're in khall, you are like invisible... Few brothers.. There was a bro that I noticed but low in spirituality...   When he approached me , he did flirting not dignified courting.  and I  also noticed here in our place  that either you are a good looking sister or sister with good job or  with property.    Then you can marry.  I don't have them both yet.😁

Did you like him too? Not all men, especially brothers, are crazy about faces or money. If he could falls in love with you there must be something he likes from you.

[JennyM]

49 minutes ago, tuntun said:

Did you like him too? Not all men, especially brothers, are crazy about faces or money. If he could falls in love with you there must be something he likes from you.

Filipinos  are too shy to approach sisters.... They would like to be flirted first.. Im not like that... I wanted to be approached in a dignified way such as "CAn we have a coffee break somewhere?" But he didn't do that, but he loved to stuck his one leg on mine.... I felt that hes pervert or something.. He has a stable job and a house.  I didn't like how he treated me.. 

 

And I was approached  by a mature brother as old as my father.. I am attracted to him spiritually  but I don't know... In romance, theres should be attraction physically as well. 

 

 

[tuntun]

12 minutes ago, JennyM said:

Filipinos  are too shy to approach sisters.... They would like to be flirted first.. Im not like that... I wanted to be approached in a dignified way such as "CAn we have a coffee break somewhere?" But he didn't do that, but he loved to stuck his one leg on mine.... I felt that hes pervert or something.. He has a stable job and a house.  I didn't like how he treated me..

Well, everyone has their own way of approaching someone they like. Some in a very subtle way while others look rather aggressive. Here if we like someone, if we are too shy to express our feelings frankly, we can ask someone for help who is close to that person. You could also approach him as a friend, "pretending" to want to help something. That is why many brothers and sisters get to know their partners further before the service. precisely during preparation for the assembly/conventions. Do you have long-distance acquaintances, for example from abroad or other city? it can help you learn to brothers further. Maybe I can help you. I met once with a very beautiful sister from different island after i asked her FB account and then cellphone number. Just too bad, one of her parent doesn't approve with our relationship.

[JennyM]

Well.. to smile at the sister that he likes .. welcoming her at khall.. and complimenting her... thats more dignified than sticking one leg to hers.....

[tuntun]

57 minutes ago, JennyM said:

Well.. to smile at the sister that he likes .. welcoming her at khall.. and complimenting her... thats more dignified than sticking one leg to hers.....

Sorry about that. Usually brothers would be very polite towards other sisters, especially when they' being at KH. Especially against a pioneer sister. Maybe he think you two already know each other enough

[Cushi]

I wonder how the husband of the sister who said she wish she never got married feels after hearing that comment by her 

Edited August 5, 2019 by Brother Jack