HI Julie,
So sorry about the situation with your son.
I understand your concerns and worries.
So what can be said to your son to help him?
You mentioned that your son has "...a lot of mental health issues, he hasn't experienced romance before and this is a very synthetic version."
But even people who have no mental issues can get very confused when it comes to the complicated emotions involving our deep inner feelings, love, sex, etc. So it could be that anyone could feel confusion about their feelings after having started some kind of connection with someone who is transgender.
So do you think this illustration and suggestion could help your son?
(Illustration)
I have a drawer full of old computer & iphone cords and wires.
Somehow they get all tangled up even though I try to keep them separated.
When I pull everything out of the drawers, there is such a tangled, complicated mess. I don't even know where to start in "untangling" the mess.
In a similar way, maybe some people who feel some form of connection to a person who is transgender is also all "tangled" up inside? Meaning that maybe they just like the "person", and possibly they feel some kind of closeness or bond because the transgender person understands them, sympathizes with them, etc.
We have to remember that a "transgender" is a person.
He/she was born with Jehovah's qualities of compassion, kindness, goodness, love, etc. So it is understandable why a person could feel a connection or bond with a transgender person.
So your son could just be all "tangled" up inside, and may not really desire a romantic/sexual relationship but he is just so confused?
Your son may have a "tangled" mess inside him trying to sort out if he just likes the "person" or if his feelings stem from romantic or sexual feelings or is this just friendship??
So since the most powerful thing that can be said to any person, including your son, who is sadly dealing with these tangled feelings, is from "the word of God" which is "... alive and exerts power and is sharper than any two-edged sword and pierces even to the dividing of soul and spirit, and of joints from the marrow, and is able to discern (and "untangle") thoughts and intentions of the heart", then how about this powerful story in the Bible about a special friendship BUT...
that some people have confused to be about a homosexual relationship?
Maybe having this story explained to your son from the perspective of trying to help him "untangle" his feelings could be very powerful?
Sister Julie,
This story can be explained to your son from this perspective:
"Notice that 2 men had "feelings" for each other. They even developed a stronger bond, a stronger love, than the love of women that some men have had. Yet both David and Jonathan did not mix their feelings of male friendship with any romantic/sexual feelings that should only be directed toward a wife. David and Jonathan didn't think that just because they found some things in common between them and became friends and developed a bond that this could mean that other emotions were involved such as romantic or sexual feelings. No, these 2 good spiritual men did not confuse their friendship, their bond, for a homosexual relationship".
And so maybe using this powerful example from the Bible could help "untangle" some of the tangled feelings your son may be experiencing?